Rom 12:21 says to “overcome evil with good”, and Luke 6:28 and Rom 12:14 remind us to “bless those who curse you.” People respond to blessing.
John Trent’s book, The Blessing, was the inspiration behind my decision to write my father a blessing and read it to him one Christmas, just he and I in a room. (A copy of it is found in 10 Best Decisions A Woman Can Make). I framed it then ready it and gave it to my dad. His response was tears and, “Pam thanks for using such nice words to describe this bad ol’ good old boy. If you ever want to use my life to help other people, then you do that, Charlie.”
My father, an alcoholic with anger issues was calm, peaceful and caring all that holiday and the ones to come. He died soon after and when I went to his home, The Tribute was sitting right on his desk where he had been working up until his heart attack.
I wrote the tribute so my dad could feel the love of God. That is the same reason that if you come to our home for any major holiday: Christmas, Thanksgiving or Easter, Bill and I say a blessing over you.
We thank God for you listing off a few of your best traits (and sometimes we have to pray God shows us one!) then we pray God’s blessings for you and light a candle at your plate.
Children and adults alike love to be encouraged.
One year, I created angel ornaments (they had a story with them and the punch line was, “ . . .and the angel was you!” and each ornament had the child’s face on it.
Then I asked the family to gather and list off each child’s character qualities and strengths and we wrote them on the back of the ornament. It was an inexpensive activity that many years later each of the children remember with fondness.
Even if you just do this kind of activity for the children, it is an unspoken reminder to the adults to focus on every person’s positives and potential instead of the negatives. Think about each person in your family.
Can you create a poem, a symbolic gift, or write a card so that they feel the love of God through you this holiday?
The key is giving it with out an expectation that they will respond positively. Give and expect nothing so if they have any positive response, then that is icing on the cake!
It is a little more work to be prepared to be this nice, but the work is so worth it!
If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
In Case You missed it, read Part One: Connection not Conflict This Christmas
Part Three: Connection no Conflict This Christmas–Part Three
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